Why book this talk:

Because your audience needs tools, truth from someone who’s lived it, studied it, and can speak to it without ego or shame. This isn’t about scaring people away from growth; it’s about providing them with a framework to grow without breaking.

Who it’s for:

• Couples considering swinging, ENM, polyamory, or any relationship transitions

• Monogamous partners exploring more profound vulnerability or reconnection

• Coaches, therapists, and event hosts supporting couples in real-world relational growth

• Anyone asking: “Can we actually handle what we’re talking about doing?”

Everybody wants more, more love, more freedom, more intimacy, more play.
But very few ask the one question that could make or break it all:

Can your relationship actually hold it?

Whether you’re dreaming about swinging, shifting into polyamory, or just craving a deeper connection inside your monogamous container, every couple eventually hits the same edge:
Desire meets pressure, and pressure exposes cracks.

This talk helps couples pause long enough to assess:

• Are we aligned sufficiently to handle this?

• Do we communicate clearly when it’s hard, not just when it’s hot?

• Can our relationship hold what we’re asking it to carry?

This is the conversation that occurs before the new rules take effect, before the group chats.
Before the yes or the mess.

Why this talk hits:

• Because too many couples open their relationship or escalate their intimacy without ever pausing to ask if the container is ready for what’s about to be poured into it.

• Because nobody teaches us how to assess capacity, we’re just expected to guess, react, or break quietly.

• Because the relationship of your dreams will still collapse if you don’t know how to hold it.

Giving couples the pause they didn’t know they needed and the tools to move forward with confidence, not chaos.

Audiences will walk away with:

• A framework to evaluate the relationship’s current capacity

• Tools to assess emotional safety, shared vision, and communication readiness

• Common issues that don’t mean “don’t do it” but mean “not yet”

• Scripts and scaffolding to start the “are we ready?” conversation without spiraling into shutdown

• Ways to strengthen the foundation before adding more to the structure

What to Know Before You Book

Do you speak at sexually explicit events?

Yes, with discernment. If the space is rooted in education, healing, identity, or liberation, I’m open to the conversation. I’m not here for shock value or adult-only content that exists just for clickbait. I won’t participate in anything exploitative, but I will absolutely sit on a porn panel if it’s thoughtful and intentional.

Do you speak at religious or conservative events?

I’m open, but I won’t dilute my message. If your community is ready for an honest and inclusive conversation about love, connection, and human relationships, I’m with you. If you’re hoping I’ll tone it down or skip over core truths to keep things “comfortable,” I’m not your speaker.

Will you debate monogamy vs. non-monogamy?

No. I don’t believe one structure is superior to the other. I believe in choice and agency. In alignment. Monogamy has value. Non-monogamy has value. I’m not here to pit them against each other. I’m here to help people understand their needs and build what actually works for them. No shame. No debate. Just options.

Will you tailor your talk for a monogamous audience?

Absolutely! My work centers on swinging and ethical non-monogamy, but the tools I teach are applicable to a broader range of relationships. Whether you’re monogamous, poly, open, or unsure, I customize the language and lens to meet your audience where they are.

Do you take every request?

No. I deeply respect my time, energy, and audience alignment. If I’m not the right fit, I’ll say so with love and I encourage you to do the same. This work is sacred to me, and I only show up where I can serve in full integrity.

Will you talk about sex or use graphic language?

I don’t teach sex. I don’t lead erotic how-tos, and I don’t offer explicit content. I focus on relationships. On the emotional tools, relational scaffolding, and inner clarity needed so that when sex is on the table, it doesn’t burn the house down. Phenomenal sex educators are doing that work, such as Goody Howard, but that’s not my lane. I teach people how to relate, not about sex. However, I do utilize adult language and will not shy away from those topics.