About Nikki & Swinger's Ed™

Swinger’s Ed™ isn’t just about swinging.

It’s about honesty, intention, and building relationships on purpose, whether that’s monogamy, polyamory, a situationship with a calendar, or something in-between that doesn’t even have a name yet. This is a space where all relationship styles are not only accepted but also celebrated, without shame or pressure.

I bring over 25 years of lived experience navigating love, sex, motherhood, heartbreak, healing, and everything the lifestyle throws at you. I’ve walked through the fire and studied the frameworks. I’ve been the partner who stayed too long, the one who asked for too little, and the one who finally said: This isn’t working for me anymore. I’ve lived through the mess, the magic, and the moments no one warns you about. I’ve also studied this deeply—from a therapeutic, narrative, and lived perspective. And now? I’m bringing that all to you.

Swinger’s Ed™ is a space for people who want to do relationships differently. Not perfectly. Not performatively. But intentionally. My goal is to inspire you to explore new relationship possibilities and grow personally and as a couple.

Yes, I center swinging. But this isn’t some hookup page pretending to be educational. Swinger's Ed™ is a place to build and collect the tools and skills needed to create the romantic relationship of you and your partner's dreams.

Swinger's Ed™ is open to people who want to:

• Explore relationship options

• Understand their needs

• Ask better questions

• Navigate consent, communication, jealousy, healing, and more

• Couples who are exploring

• Individuals curious about connection and identity

• People shifting out of people-pleasing and into their own truth

• Anyone who wants to understand themselves, their partner(s), and their relationship possibilities more deeply

I don’t care what your relationship looks like; I care that you understand why it seems that way. I care that you have the tools to build the scaffolding that holds your love up, instead of letting your relationship collapse because no one ever taught you how to reinforce it. I care that you have access to the kinds of tools, language, and reflective support that help you move forward in a way that feels safe and true.

I care that you’re asking the questions that put you and your partner right where you both want to be, rather than just repeating what you've seen and heard without question.

If you’re monogamous? You’re welcome here.

Poly? Of Course!

Clingy? Curious? Closed? Open? Confused? All of y’all... pull up a seat, please, and let's change the expectations, limitations, and relational assumptions together.

Because this is about helping you build the kind of relationship that actually works for you, not just the one you were told you had to want.

Here’s what I want for you:

• I want to open your mind.

• If you’ve never been taught how to think about your relationships, I want to help you learn.

• If you’ve sensed something wasn’t working but didn’t know where to start, I want to offer space for curiosity and clarity.

• If you’ve been carrying doubt, fear, or uncertainty, I want you to know you’re not alone.

You deserve more than survival, or just winging it, or repeating the things you've seen because you don't know there are other options.

• You are allowed to design your relationship on your terms.

• You are allowed to shift.

• You are allowed to want something different.

• You are allowed to be loved in a way that honors who you are.

Swinger’s Ed™ is here to support you in this journey of intentional relationship building. I am not here to dictate what you should do, but to remind you that you have choices and your truth matters.

Not to tell you what to do—but to remind you that you have options, and your truth matters.

Let’s build something rooted in trust, honesty, and choice.

Because guess what?

You have full fucking control...

• Over how your relationship is structured.

• Over how it feels.

• Over how you show up.

• Over what you allow—and what you create.

And I’m here to walk you through the tools, the healing, and the decisions you’ll need to get you there. Whether you’re a couple, a solo explorer, a newbie, or a vet, Swinger’s Ed™ is a space for you to unlearn what doesn’t fit you and build what does.

Let’s do this together.

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