Why book this talk:

Because this is the conversation happening in bedrooms everywhere, and most people are doing it with zero tools, zero guidance, and a whole lot of hope. Let’s stop guessing. Let’s start preparing.

You’ve talked about it in bed.
Fantasized about it in the car.
Flirted with the idea of “opening up” or doing things differently because something inside you knows there’s more.

But no one tells you what happens when the fantasy hits real life.
When the conversation turns from spicy curiosity to emotional complexity.
When the play becomes pressure.
When the “yes” doesn’t feel so simple anymore.

This talk is for every couple who thought the conversation would be easy until it wasn’t.

I’m not here to tell you what structure to choose. I’m here to make sure you don’t destroy a good thing by skipping the questions that matter.

These are the questions couples avoid, aren’t taught, or don’t even know to ask, the ones that determine whether this journey brings you closer or cracks everything open.

Audiences walk away with:

• The five fantasy traps that quietly wreck genuine relationships

• The exact questions to ask before you open anything—including your mouth

• Language that builds safety instead of shutdown

• A new framework for navigating desire, boundaries, fear, and change
  without losing each other in the process

This isn’t about shaming your desire.
This is about building the emotional scaffolding strong enough to hold it.

Perfect for:

• Couples curious about swinging, ENM, or reigniting their connection

• Therapists, educators, and coaches working with nontraditional relationships

• Anyone who’s ever whispered “we could try…” and wondered what would happen next.

What to Know Before You Book

Do you speak at sexually explicit events?

Yes, with discernment. If the space is rooted in education, healing, identity, or liberation, I’m open to the conversation. I’m not here for shock value or adult-only content that exists just for clickbait. I won’t participate in anything exploitative, but I will absolutely sit on a porn panel if it’s thoughtful and intentional.

Do you speak at religious or conservative events?

I’m open, but I won’t dilute my message. If your community is ready for an honest and inclusive conversation about love, connection, and human relationships, I’m with you. If you’re hoping I’ll tone it down or skip over core truths to keep things “comfortable,” I’m not your speaker.

Will you debate monogamy vs. non-monogamy?

No. I don’t believe one structure is superior to the other. I believe in choice and agency. In alignment. Monogamy has value. Non-monogamy has value. I’m not here to pit them against each other. I’m here to help people understand their needs and build what actually works for them. No shame. No debate. Just options.

Will you tailor your talk for a monogamous audience?

Absolutely! My work centers on swinging and ethical non-monogamy, but the tools I teach are applicable to a broader range of relationships. Whether you’re monogamous, poly, open, or unsure, I customize the language and lens to meet your audience where they are.

Do you take every request?

No. I deeply respect my time, energy, and audience alignment. If I’m not the right fit, I’ll say so with love and I encourage you to do the same. This work is sacred to me, and I only show up where I can serve in full integrity.

Will you talk about sex or use graphic language?

I don’t teach sex. I don’t lead erotic how-tos, and I don’t offer explicit content. I focus on relationships. On the emotional tools, relational scaffolding, and inner clarity needed so that when sex is on the table, it doesn’t burn the house down. Phenomenal sex educators are doing that work, such as Goody Howard, but that’s not my lane. I teach people how to relate, not about sex. However, I do utilize adult language and will not shy away from those topics.